One of the reasons why young marriages fail is that the two parties are too immature to get along with each other and maintain a sense of romance. They think that "love" is that feeling they had for one another when they were dating. When they dated they always had their best foot forward. He was bromance and she was sister mack. They stepped to each other wearing their best smile, attitude, clothes and manners. Fresh out of a romance novel she had feelings of ecstasy super-imposing her favorite romantic over the top of her boyfriend. He imagined her to be the sweetheart of a thousand of his dreams. They put on real good for a while, but it was a front. And because we as human beings often like to be played, they believed all the fakery and called it "love." They saw each other as the best thing since the iphone. It would be comical if it were not so serious. For example:
1. He never let her go in the bathroom after he blew it up.
2. She never let him see her without making herself up.
3. He never raised his voice at her.
4. She acted as docile and harmless as a tranquilized panda bear.
This is a short and silly list, but you get the point. Believe this, once married, the "real you" will come out. Unable to keep the best foot forward all the time the other person begins to see somebody different than the one they idealized while dating. You stink and get irritable, just for starters. The more comfortable you get with one another the more you let your guard down. Soon the two begin to "fall out of love".

While you're probably wanting to ask "what's the other side of this story" I want to make a point here. What is wrong with this picture? How long do you think they will have romantic feelings for each other when there is no common sense, responsibility or discipline in the relationship? "You aint my dad" is a 14 year old talking. She expects him to woo and coo, but he is too aggravated to be anything but angry. She gets resentful and begins to hate him because he is always having to deal with this stuff. That or just let it go and that's not an option. What happens? They fall out of love.
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